Every time I go to yoga I try to savor one of the yoga wisdoms they throw at us in class, and then I ponder it for the rest of the day. Yesterday the teacher talked about how we need to change the story in our head. The normal, go-to internal dialogue is almost always about what you “didn’t do,” or “did wrong,” or “don’t like about yourself.” We do it so often we don’t even notice we do it. Working around women as much as you do in this business, you start to get a real feel for how we (as women) talk to ourselves and let me tell you, it’s not pretty. When I hear someone say something positive, I’m genuinely shocked. I heard a woman reflect the other day that she “looked really good in pink.” She did indeed, but I was more impressed that she could actually verbalize that out loud. It’s true, no one really says nice things about themselves out loud, AND when someone else says something nice, the instinctual response is to diminish and denounce the compliment, rarely do we just soak it up.
So today, instead of wondering why you don’t look better, or beating yourself up because you failed to do something perfectly, talk to yourself like someone that you love (I read that somewhere and I wrote it down I liked it so much.) Say kind things to yourself, all day, and see how that feels. Even if all the self-criticism was true, why give it legs? Focus on the good stuff, make THAT your mantra.
On a totally different note, I just want to think a moment on all the touchable colors for fall that we have in the store right now. We just got in this amazing Eileen Fisher pink Velvet, and you literally want to grab it and rub it on your face the second you see it. Or the Margaret O’Leary china blue, Eileen Fisher blue spruce, and the Velvet winestone satin.
Don't even get me started on the Emilime hats
, oh my, those are tasty and snuggly. These gorgeous colors and fabrics just evoke such a physical response, you want to reach out and touch it. Who doesn’t want to be highly touchable? If that's not a reason to buy some color, I'm not sure what is!
Lastly, has everyone done their closet switch over? I tend to drag mine out until the end of September, because our summer can go late, and I love to hold out (plus it’s just plain hard to acknowledge that it’s over.) But alas, there will be no more rogue 80 degree days. Fall is most definitely here. So, this past weekend I flipped the closet over, from spring/summer to fall/winter. I did some purging at the same time. When you pull your fall/winter stuff out of storage, be mindful of how it makes you feel to unpack it. I had some things that made me feel a little sad. Sad because I just didn’t want to see it. That went into the donation pile. I had some stuff that I thought, “oh god, again?” That went in the pile too. Then I had some things that I had to regretfully acknowledge, it was time to retire simple because even though I still liked it, I’m pretty sure everyone else around me was sick of it (and I know how this is because my husband has a couple of tee-shirts that physically make me nauseas when I see them—I just can’t stand to see them anymore, that’s how sick I am of them.) I have an Om Girl top from probably 10 years ago that I should be embarrassed to still own but it’s like a wookie blanket, I’m attached. It’s tired though, and it went into the donation pile because it's time to toss of the old and the tired, and freshen up!
Happy almost October. Guess what that means? Yep, you guess it...Halloween, Thanksgiving and Christmas are officially staring us down!
Signed, ME {lv}
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