My first act of self-care for 2020 was, no surprise, taking a yoga class. The offering/message for the class was the topic of non-attachment. The idea that you can have goals and resolutions, but at the end of the day you have to come to terms with the idea that we have control over some things, and not other things. So you release yourself from the result or end goal, and concentrate on what you can control/do day to day and you hope the process carries you where you want to go, knowing there are things you simply can’t control in life.
Personally I find myself obsessing about all kinds of things I KNOW I don’t have control over, and worrying about them excessively. That’s definitely on my list of things to try and let go in 2020. It’s especially easy to do when you are raising teens because they do so much that you can't control. You stress that they won’t study hard enough, you stress that even if they do it won’t be good enough. You worry that they won’t make the right decision when it’s important, or that what they think is the right decision really isn’t the best decision. For me the only way I can prevent combusting into a stress ball is to realize that I only have control over one piece of the puzzle, I will make my piece as good as I can, but they have to fit the other pieces into place and they might end up fitting (or not) but that is true no matter how much worrying I do. We all want everything to be perfect—and if not perfect—just really, really good. They might be sometimes, and likely won’t a lot of the time. Non attachment for me is allowing that to be true, while still doing every last thing I can possibly do (within my control) to make my end game possible.
So with my yoga self-care behind me, I’m getting organized with the start of the new year. Putting away the last of the Christmas/holiday stuff (always a long, dreaded process). I’m doing a little “winter organizing” of things, regrouping after last two frantic months. My closet is a mess, I’ve got a lot of little things that I’ve put off (going to the dry cleaner, hand washing certain clothes, ordering more sport clothes detergent…all those little naggy things that are seemingly unimportant but when you pile them all up they drive you crazy).
I’ve got my new bullet journal ready for action (I love this one)
and it seems like a good time to start making lists to check off. This time the list has all those things that I NEED on it vs. whatever else needed for the holidays. I really think the top resolution any of us can have for 2020 is to dedicate yourself to the best self-care you can give yourself. Good healthy food, exercise, things or rituals that feed your soul. We have to take care of ourselves because without that foundational self-love there simply isn’t the same quality of strength, energy, and creativity to turn around and give to the world and those you love in the world. So start getting organized and make that list of what you need for YOU.
I made a list and then checked off "re-order P50 1970", which is one of my top coveted products that I can't live without. I start getting nervous when there is only a 1/3 of a bottle left.
I also ordered one of the new YaY re-usable bags in a cool lace print because I'm doubling my effort to actually use re-usable bags more. I am chronically forgetting them, but noticed my husband John always has his and he's really good at leaving it in his driver's side door pocket. I'll notice the bag sitting on the step next to the front door in the house because he'll use it, and then set it right by the door so he puts it back into his car the next time he goes out. I'm not sure what my problem is, but in the past I can't seem to get the habit going to consistently use them. I would like to remove the annoyance of the clerk asking if I have my own bags and having to say no
Happy first day of January 2020!
Signed, ME {lv}
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