I want to see a show of hands - who loves hanging out with their in-laws? Like really, really loves it?? I am sure there are some people out there. There has to be! But generally speaking, and based on the data I have "collected" over the years talking to all my amazing customers, there are a lot more people who don't love hanging out with their in-laws. Why is that? Why is there always that in-law dynamic? Off the top of my head, I can think of half a dozen close customers that are fantastic people, and I would love to be in-laws with them somehow. But for every time I've thought that, they have a story about how they've (unknowingly) offended their daughter-in-law, or have horror stories with their own mother-in-laws. Why?! Why is that?! They're so sweet, I can't imagine anyone not getting along with them!
My own personal mother-in-law is an incredible woman. She's also quite a force (and a presence) in the room. Ask almost anyone who knows her and their description of her will be something along the lines of, 'she's so nice, but you never have to wonder what she's thinking', or 'she does so much to help her community, but you don't want to be on her wrong side', etc. And they're not wrong! Her kids are always telling her to use a filter, and family gatherings always include a lot of wide eyes and a "did she really just say that?" moment. My skin has gotten pretty thick around her, but at some point, it might crack, and something might get said back to her. At least, I dream about that. haha
So the in-laws planned a week at a beach house, and it was one of those invites that say you don't really have to come, but really you do have to come because if you don't, you're a terrible daughter-in-law keeping my son away from me. They never really do things like this, and I do think it is SO important for us to be involved and spend time with the family. Despite everything I've just said, I'm actually really grateful they've planned this for everyone. Now, the fact that some of the siblings aren't clearing their schedules to make this happen is a rant for another time. ;) My official countdown has begun! We leave on Sunday, and I know I can do this. It WILL be fun, and no one's feelings will be hurt - I'm making that my personal mission/the power of positive thinking! Digging deep into my own strength, and spreading the love around for others. This will be the turning point of strained in-law relationships. I want to see what the 5 people in the whole world that actually love their in-laws experience.
I'll be sure and report back. Hopefully it's drama free, but if its not, I know there will be good stories to share!
oxox,
AT
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